When most people
think of being single, they think of being alone. They imagine someone
aimlessly wandering until they find their missing piece. Is it possible to be
single and not lonely?
About four months
ago, I stumbled across an article that stated that most single people didn’t
experience being single correctly. I was instantly skeptical. I gave this
article the biggest side eye I could manage.
“How dare these words on a page pretend to
know my newly acquired relationship status?” I thought.
As I read, I felt
that maybe I’d misjudged the article. The article stated that most single
people don’t try to learn themselves during their time alone. The article also
stated that many single people don’t enjoy life’s experiences to the fullest
because they are too busy trying to get couple up, if only for a night. This
struck a chord. I thought I’d been enjoying my life, but was I fully engaging
in daily experiences? Was I really enjoying being single? The answer was a
resounding no. I’d been bested by a periodical. Read it and weep…literally.
Instead of being
upset that an article had me pegged, I decided to do something about it. I
decided to spend more time with not just my friends, but myself. To enjoy the
stillness of my own soul instead of the noise of others is peaceful. I do
things that improve my mind and body such as meditation. I’ve even joined a
women’s group at church. I’m alone but I’m not lonely. Self-assuredness allows
you to walk tall against the rain. Insecurity only leaves you soaked.
Confidence attracts, which explains the string of dates I’ve been on recently.
Nonetheless, life is beautiful.
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