Thursday, April 9, 2015

Beware of the Leapfrog


On the weekends there is nothing better than having plans. It breaks up the monotony of the work week. What happens when you get an invite only to find it’s for someone else?

One Friday evening, I was hanging out with a bunch of friends and acquaintances. One associate and I started to talk. As we chatted, we made plans to hang out the next day.  I had some appointments in the morning and afternoon but promised to make contact after that.

The next day as promised, I texted to see what was up. As it turned out she was free. Then something curious happened. She asked if a mutual friend was available.  At the time I thought nothing of it. When I mentioned that he was already at an engagement, she said she’d check around to see if anything else was going on. As you might have already guessed, that call/text never came. If she wanted to hang out with the other friend, why not invite them instead?  Why “leap” over someone?

The lesson I learned is that when plans are being formed, make sure they won’t fall through. I also learned to make sure the person actually wants to have plans with you. If you’re just a “place holder”, don’t waste your time. Time is a precious thing; don’t waste it on invites you weren’t meant for.

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