We all complain. Venting is a natural human reaction to an unpleasant occurrence. At some point it goes from healthy to just plain irritating. When does venting become whining?
When I was little, I wasn't allowed whine. My grandfather, who was a reasonable person, had no patience for endless complaining. In his mind, after you get out your initial complaint, you ought to be looking for a solution. As an adult, I'm grateful for this because when I am faced with a problem, my first thought is on how to fix it. This is not standard behavior. Unfortunately, we live in an age where people would rather complain than remedy a problem.
When I was in college, whining was all too common. Some of my associates would complain about anything. From class to their boyfriend, nothing was off limits. It was annoying. Don't think that ladies are the only guilty party. In this day and age whining is for the boys too. I have had a few boyfriends who crabbed endlessly about things they had no intention on fixing. At least with colleagues your can avoid this, but when it's your significant other, it is constant.
My grandfather used to put an end to my whining by saying, "Don't invite me to your pity party!" That being said, just because your invited to a pity party, doesn't mean you have to attend.
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