One Year Older, One Year Wiser

     In less than a week I turn 29. I am both excited and reflective. I learned many lessons last year and am certain that I will learn more this year. I'd like to share a few of those lessons.

     The first lesson that I learned is that sometimes when a man puts you on a pedestal in the beginning of the relationship it isn't always good. Sometimes he only wants to put you up there to look up your skirt. Or worse show you off as a trophy. Neither of these things are good.

     The next lesson is that quitting while you're ahead is not the same as quitting. For me this is twofold. This was applicable both professionally and personally. When the person that you are working with or in a romantic relationship isn't being supportive and is causing more mental anguish than anything positive, it's time to walk. You don't have anything to lose. You aren't going to gain anything by sticking around to see what new foolishness they will concoct.

Another lesson I learned is change is not only inevitable but can be wonderful. I made many changes this past year. I stopped drinking, lost weight, and ended a relationship. At this point, I can tell you I've never felt not only better but younger. I still hang out with my friends and do everything I ever wanted without being held back by a guy, excess weight, or one too many cocktails.

     Last but not least, it is alright to be selfish sometimes. My first job is me. My happiness, my well being, and my self improvement are most important. Everything else should come after. Sometimes you get so caught up helping others that you neglect yourself and sometimes get used. Neither of these are good things. There's nothing wrong with helping others as long as it doesn't risk you losing or hurting yourself in the process.

     As long as I'm alive I know I will constantly be learning. I'm happy to be getting older. Last year was a great year of transition. I have no doubt that this year will be wonderful, new lessons and all. I await and embrace the new lessons unafraid. Show me what you got, 29.