I Want You To Want Me

     When in a relationship, you do things for someone because you want to. What happens when everything involving that other person becomes a chore? Is it better to be wanted or needed?

     When a relationship first starts you never want to be away from each other, all of their jokes are funny, and no matter what they ask for you try to deliver come hell or high water. After the ardor fades is when the real fun starts. The cracks start to show and you begin to see how your partner really feels about you. I remember asking an ex-boyfriend to do something for me and receiving a less than civil response.

    "Sure. Since everyone thinks that I live to serve them."

     Nice, huh?

    I have always felt that being wanted is better than being needed. Need has a desperate connotation. You need food and water, not another person. When someone wants you they are consciously choosing to have you in their life. It isn't drudgery because it is their choice. Need pushes people to do crazy things i.e. stalking, harassing, and being generally creepy. When you want someone, your free will is in use, not need driven obsession.