The dictionary
defines a “rake” as a fashionable or wealthy man of dissolute or promiscuous
habits. You are probably more familiar with the synonyms: playboy, libertine,
or profligate. While the above
definition is a bit dramatic and somewhat overblown, you can’t deny the allure.
What is it that makes these men so magnetic and why do we bother?
I’ve had my own personal experiences with
the rakish sort. One such experience comes to mind. He didn’t seem like
trouble, but he did look like everything I liked. As we talked, we found that
we had many similar interests. Many conversations of music and films filled the
air between us. We went on outings, but nothing of substance. It was only a
matter of time before mixed signals abounded. It became apparent that this was
not going to be anything serious. I left my emotions out of the equation and
proceeded onward. I went on dates with other potential suitors, but I confess,
sometimes a lady likes a distraction.
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| Don Draper |
For months our similar interests were
enough to keep me interested. At a certain point, I needed to focus. I didn’t
have time for blurred vision, tinted lenses, or double vision. I cut him loose
and sailed away. My life moves in one direction; forward. Honestly, this is the
most I’ve reflected on it.
I sometimes wonder what drew me to him.
His looks were a catalyst, but it was something more. Rakish men are captivating,
unpredictable, and suave. This makes them sexy. Take James Bond, for example.
Is he not the ultimate rake? He’s impeccably dressed, articulate, handsome, and
an occupational risk taker. What woman wouldn’t be swayed into a bad decision? Bond
may be mesmerizing, but he’s usually gone in the morning.
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| Bond. James Bond |
Some things are too intriguing to stay
away from. By my estimation, there are two ways to deal with a rake. You either
don’t engage them at all or you get rid of them before you get too entangled.
Rakes are like wild animals; admire them from a distance, but never interact.
