Human beings are social creatures and like being acknowledged by those that they know. When a friend or colleague ignores you, it leaves you wondering why.
A few months ago, I was a bridesmaid at my sorority sister's wedding. I was single, so I enlisted my friend, Adair, as my date. At the reception, one of the guests who was an associate from college and was the wife of the groom's fraternity brother, came up and spoke to me. We chatted for a little while. I noticed that she said not even two words to Adair or looked in his direction.
"What was that about?" Adair asked after she walked away.
"I don't know. I thought you guys were cool."
"I thought we were too," he replied.
There was no getting around it, he'd been snubbed.
Just recently, I too, was snubbed. As I was stopping in to see my stylist and discuss business (she's my first client of my side business). I saw one of my sorority sisters with one of her friends.
"Hi, Cara," I greeted.
She barely looked at me and made some faint unintelligible sound. I proceeded to talk shop with my stylist. I had a job to do and Cara's rudeness wasn't going to stop this. The only thing that chafed me, was that I knew the next time I saw her socially she was going to enthusiastically greet me. I am the same person all of the time. I acknowledge people no matter who I'm around. Even if I don't like someone, I am at least civil. This is a lost art form, apparently.
As I get older I resign myself to the fact that if someone doesn't speak to me or behaves anti-socially, there is no reason to push the issue. That being said, the party who has done the snubbing shouldn't later expect the snubee to go out of their way to speak to them. This is after all, a situation that they've created.
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